A major life transition can bring seemingly contradictory emotions. A new beginning may create excitement, hope, and anticipation while also bringing sadness, uncertainty, or grief. And yet they belong together and are part of our experience.

When we are in the middle of a challenge—whether it’s a life transition, grief, or a period of confusion—it is common to feel lost, disconnected, or emotionally overwhelmed.

In these moments, we often hear that practicing gratitude can help us feel better.

I’ve come across this message many times, especially in conversations around personal development and holistic wellness. And while I understand the value of gratitude, I also see something else: when we are in the middle of emotional pain, gratitude can feel out of reach.